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TRUE LOVE
Love implies truth, trust and mutual understanding. The question of true or false cannot arise in love. When there is falsity in a relationship then it cannot be termed as love. Love in all its perspectives can only be true. Where the heart is impure and full of conceit, there love cannot exist. Love is the foundation for any relationship. Just like a plant cannot grow on weak soil and with out proper watering and manure, a relationship cannot be nurtured on misunderstandings, mutual mistrust and a loveless heart.
True love can only give and give unquestioningly. It grows as it gives and spreads like the overgrown tree spreading out its branches. Physical attraction can only be a passing phase and cannot out live age but love which stems from the roots of mutual trust and understanding and that grows firmer with the passing of time stays strong and irreversible can stand the test of time. It is the feeling of living for each other and accepting the follies and discrepancies of each other. There is hardly any scope for a feeling of one- up-man-ship or a holier than thou attitude. Finding fault with each other and trying to view every act of the partner through a magnifying glass should be avoided, because the deeper we go in to the whys and what of an act we always end up finding more of the complications. True love can flourish only on a policy of forget and forgive. Small drawbacks here and there should always be given a benefit of doubt.
Initial attraction, which happens on a superficial level, based on the physical appearance and a certain limited level of proximity can wear off after a certain period of time, but true love develops through the thick and the thin of the life's tribulations. Of course love between people of the opposite sexes starts with a certain amount of working of body chemistry and looks and the physical attraction plays a major part in bringing together a man and a woman but it can be continued and built into a strong relationship only on the basis of mutual understanding and love for each other's failures lapses and shortcomings.
True love should be like the love that a mother gives its child; the mother does not think of the gains that she may reap out of the love that she is giving to her child. She will be the first to forgive any folly of the child and tries to wean away the child from the wrong doing as mildly as possible. The relationship between partners should also be nurtured on this principle. The drawbacks of each other should be mildly and properly explained to the erring party and he or she should be given opportunity to realize their mistakes.
Love can only be true as it implies truth trust and godliness. 'True love' hence means a repetition of the same concept. Love, which gives without asking back, and love, which is ever ready to forget and forgive and love which only knows to accept and not reject, is true love.